Are You Unsure Whether to Stay Together or Separate?
Deciding whether to stay in a marriage or move toward divorce is one of the most difficult choices a couple can face. Often, one partner is leaning toward leaving while the other wants to save the relationship. This imbalance can create frustration, fear, and confusion.
Discernment counseling is a short-term, structured approach designed to help couples gain clarity about their relationship and make a confident, informed decision about their future. Our skilled relationship therapists are committed to providing a safe, non-judgmental space to explore your feelings, understand your options, and determine the best path forward.
What Is Discernment Counseling?
Discernment counseling is different from traditional couples therapy. Instead of focusing on fixing the relationship, it helps couples decide whether to:
- Work toward reconciliation with a renewed commitment.
- Pursue separation or divorce with mutual understanding.
- Postpone a decision while gaining deeper insight.
This process is designed for couples where one or both partners are uncertain about continuing the relationship.
Who Can Benefit from Discernment Counseling?
This type of counseling may be a good fit if:
- One partner is considering divorce, but the other is unsure.
- You’ve been struggling with relationship dissatisfaction but haven’t fully explored solutions.
- You want a structured space to reflect before making a life-altering decision.
- You’ve tried couples therapy in the past without clear resolution.
If both partners are fully committed to saving the relationship, traditional couples therapy may be more appropriate. However, if there is uncertainty, discernment counseling can help clarify what’s next.
How Does Discernment Counseling Work?
The process includes both individual and joint conversations with a trained therapist. It typically involves:
- Understanding the current situation – Identifying the challenges that brought you to this point.
- Exploring relationship dynamics – Recognizing patterns and behaviors that have contributed to difficulties.
- Assessing potential for change – Evaluating whether the relationship can improve and what would be required.
- Clarifying personal goals – Helping each partner reflect on what they truly want.
- Making a decision – Determining whether to work on the marriage or separate in a respectful way.
Each session is designed to reduce pressure and help both partners feel heard, respected, and understood.
The Benefits of Discernment Counseling
- Clarity and confidence – Make an informed decision rather than an impulsive one.
- Less regret – Reduce the chances of making a choice you may later question.
- Improved communication – Even if you separate, the process helps foster mutual respect.
- Healthier transitions – If divorce is the decision, discernment counseling can help set a cooperative tone.
Take the Next Step
If you and your partner are struggling to decide whether to stay together or separate, discernment counseling can provide the clarity you need. You don’t have to navigate this decision alone.
Contact us today to schedule a consultation and take the first step toward greater understanding and peace of mind.
For additional resources, you may find these helpful:
- The Doherty Relationship Institute – Learn more about discernment counseling.
- DivorceCare – Support groups for those considering or experiencing divorce.
- The Gottman Institute – Relationship research and tools for couples.
Whatever path you choose, we are here to support you.
