Victoria Holroyd, PhD

Licensed Professional Counselor in NY, VA, MA

Specialties: Intimacy, Infidelity & Divorce Mediation

Contact:, (757) 788-2800, ext. 505


Can I really help? Who am I?
Am I good at what I do?

My passion and focus is relationships. Seriously. Working with two people in a room is where I shine.

As you read this you’ll get an idea of who I am and if we’ll work well together, not just list the things I’ve done (though you can click here for that information).

I consider being a therapist an absolute privilege. My story of becoming a therapist began with my own personal development journey, so I am aware how special and important my role is. Working with couples, individuals and families in their trauma and grief to find connection and a way home gives me purpose and pride.


You are coming to me to do serious work and I honor this – I am not the nod your head type of therapist. We will work hard. I know you are the expert on you, but I have a great BS detector. I’ll call you on your stuff. I will laugh with you. I will cry with you and I will bring everything I have learned, researched, studied and experienced to our time together.

This isn’t my first rodeo. I’ve worked with thousands of clients. After twenty five years in this field I’m unshockable. I’m not afraid to talk about anything you need to talk about. Sex? Money?  Long held secrets? Let’s get it all out; there’s nothing to be ashamed of because this is where the healing begins.

And to answer the very first questions: Yes, I do know what I’m doing. I’ve trained under world class experts to learn the highest level of skill. I am continually learning  and improving so I can be the expert you need.I may not always get it right. I definitely make mistakes and when I do I am very transparent and in the moment with my clients. In fact, my clients teach me extraordinary lessons everyday about being human.

Want to know a bit more About Me?

I love New York and have lived all across the state. Most recently I lived in Buffalo. If I had a fairy godmother, I would move to NYC, live in Greenwich Village brownstone, walk to bookstores, cafe’s and museums every day and eat out at a different restaraunt every night. However, I believe we need to bloom where we are planted and I am in Virginia now and learning to love it. 

Mentoring new professionals and volunteering my time and skill set is a priority for me. I have served on several professional boards as well as a few that have a personal interest for me, such as Crisis Services, Gilda’s Club & the Red Door Community for people living with cancer. I left academia and began a private practice for health reasons. Part of that journey was discovering Hot Yoga. I began practicing Bikram yoga over 20 years ago in NYC and it changed my life so much I became an instructor. You can find me at one of the local yoga studios, or traveling with my husband or big shaggy dog to visit family and friends. 

I approach my work from the following beliefs:

  • All of life’s pain is born of loss–not just death, but a metaphorical death. The loss of love, loved ones, friendship, marriage, job, health, confidence, self-esteem, hope, life as we once knew it.
  • Therapy should be active and solution-focused, with a definite ending.
  • Healing begins with someone who will truly listen.
  • Sustainable, positive change takes time. It is oh-so-subtle and happens over time. 

I can help. And, yes, I love what I do, and yes, I am very good at it.


Private Pay Counseling Services


$125 for 25-minute session
$350 for 55-minute session
$400 for 90-minute intake session

In-Office Sessions

Intake Session$400 for 90-minute session
Individual Therapy$350 for 55-minute session
Couples/Family Therapy$350 for 55-minute session
Weekend/Evening Appointments$100 additional

Concierge/In-Home Sessions

Dr. Holroyd’s Concierge Plans allow you to have 24-hour access to her unique suite of services in a variety of settings and modalities; including road trip and travel options. 1-3-6 month contracts are available. Contact Dr. Holroyd directly to discuss a customized plan that suits the special needs of your schedule.
Individual$300 for 50-minute session
Couples/Family Therapy$350 for 50-minute session
Up to 8 hours of VIP Concierge Services$2,000 per month
Up to 12 hours of VIP Concierge Services$3,000 per month
Up to 24 hours of VIP Concierge Services$6,000 per month
Additional Session Discount10% with the purchase of a VIP Concierge Plan
TravelIncluded up to 30 miles

Additional Services

Court Testimony$500 & up


Cash, check and credit or debit cards are accepted for payment.


While insurance is not accepted at this time, Dr. Holroyd is happy to provide you with receipts and documentation to submit to your insurance carrier for reimbursement. Services may be covered in full or in part by your health insurance or employee benefit plan. Please review your coverage carefully, and consult with your insurance provider. Consider the following questions when determining if your insurance will reimburse you for therapy:

  • What are my mental health insurance benefits?
  • Has my deductible been met?
  • How many sessions per year does my health insurance cover?
  • What is the coverage amount per therapy session?
  • Does my insurance require pre-approval from my primary care physician?


  • Couples Therapist Collaborative Couples Therapist trained by Dan Wile, extensively trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Certified Level 2 in Gottman Method Therapy, Certified Level 1 in PACT: Psychobiological Couples Therapy
  • Family Therapist Structural Family Therapist trained at the Minuchin Center for Family Therapy, Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Families (EFFT), Approved Parent Coordinator with Affiliation of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC). Experienced in residential treatment, crisis centers and psychiatric hospitals and expertise in attachment-based trauma
  • Sex Therapist Certified by the Institute for Relational Intimacy specializing in chronic illness, sexuality of aging and low desire discrepancy, as well as transgender couples therapy
  • Emotionally Focused Therapist with extensive training for over a decade
  • Nationally Certified Counselor individually licensed in New York, Florida, and Virginia
  • Board Diplomate Clinical Mental Health Counseling American Mental Health Counseling Association 
  • Board Diplomate Trauma Counseling American Mental Health Counseling Association
  • Board Diplomate Couples & Family Counseling American Mental Health Counseling Association
  • Clinically Certified Mental Health Counselor CCMHC 
  • Certified Trauma Specialist State University of New York at Buffalo School of Social Work 2006
  • Certified School Counselor in New York specialized in special education, play therapy, and childhood trauma
  • Private Practitioner since 1998
  • Clinical Professor on the faculty of the State University of New York at Buffalo in the department of Counseling, School and Educational Psychology for 11 years before moving to Virginia.
  • Provided training and consultation to agencies serving abused, neglected, and traumatized children and families, including foster parent organizations, CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocate), Child Protection workers, family courts, and schools.
  • Elected Professional and Board Positions on local, state, and national professional counseling associations. Including Past President of the North Atlantic Region Association of Counselor Education and Supervision and Executive Committee member for the Association of Counseling Education Supervision. 
  • Proven expertise in extreme mood and personality disorders that arise from complex trauma and abuse.
  • Extensive experience as a New York Supreme Court Family Mediator, Divorce Coach, Parent Coordinator. Served as expert witness in both criminal and family court.
  • Presented regionally and nationally as well as being a frequent presenter at conferences, workshops, and trainings on topics such as child trauma, blended families, personal empowerment, high conflict divorce, traumatic effects of divorce and separation on children, LGBTQIA+ Couples Therapy, and effective therapeutic interventions.
  • Conducted research on the incidence of PTSD in children from high conflict divorce families.
  • Recognized Relationship and Mental Health Expert invited to speak at national and local conferences, podcasts, local news and radio as well as lead discussions at universities, companies, hospitals and wellness retreats.


  • AMHCA Board Diplomate in Family and Couples Therapy
  • AMHCA Board Diplomate Trauma & Crisis Counseling
  • Heart Centered Hypnotherapist
  • Family Constellation Facilitator
  • Prepare-Enrich Certified Facilitator
  • Certified Trauma Treatment Specialist

Additional Training:

  • EMDR Advanced Skills at the Parnell Institute
  • Gottman Method Couple Therapy Levels I & II
  • Institute for Relational Intimacy, Level 1 Certification towards becoming certified with The American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists


  • AASECT – American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists
  • ICEEFT – International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy 
  • WPATH – World Professional Association for Transgender Health
  • ACA – American Counseling Association
  • AMHCA – American Mental Health Counseling Association
  • ATSS – Association of Traumatic Stress Specialists
  • ITTI: International Trauma Training Institute
  • EMDRIA – Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing International Association