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Recommended Books/Documents

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

“The message of Hold Me Tight is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, making grand romantic gestures, or experimenting with new sexual positions. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are emotionally attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent for nurturing, soothing, and protection.”

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My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies

In this groundbreaking book, therapist Resmaa Menakem examines the damage caused by racism in America from the perspective of trauma and body-centered psychology.

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Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief

In 1969, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross first identified the stages of dying in her transformative book On Death and Dying. Decades later, she and David Kessler wrote the classic On Grief and Grieving, introducing the stages of grief with the same transformative pragmatism and compassion. Now, based on hard-earned personal experiences, as well as knowledge and wisdom gained through decades of work with the grieving, Kessler introduces a critical sixth stage: meaning.

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Erotic Orientation: Helping Couples and Individuals Understand Their Sexual Lives

There is no shame in erotic orientation. As a heterosexual couple or individual, learn how to have a sex-positive attitude toward your sexual fantasies and minimize any shame you carry about your erotic interests. From the taboo topic of masturbation to more complex subjects such as emotional landscape and attachment, Dr. Joe Kort sheds light in the dark by sharing his more than thirty years experience in sex therapy. The key to happy, healthy sexuality is to not deny ones core erotic orientation.

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A Resource for Parents in Divorce: 17 things your child wants you to know

Here are 17 things your child wants you to know as you navigate your divorce. Make life for your child as loving as possible.

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The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart.

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Esther Perel

Relationship Center therapist, Tammie Taylor (left), with acclaimed couples’ therapist, author, and speaker, Esther Perel (right)

Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) is a new, scientifically based psychotherapy that takes a fresh look at why we suffer and even what it means to be mentally healthy. What if pain were a normal, unavoidable part of the human condition, but avoiding or trying to control painful experience were the cause of suffering and long-term problems that can devastate your quality of life? The ACT process hinges on this distinction between pain and suffering. As you work through this book, you’ll learn to let go of your struggle against pain, assess your values, and then commit to acting in ways that further those values.

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Esther Perel

Relationship Center therapist, Aishwarya Nambiar, with author Steven Hayes (right)

Blog Posts

You Are Extraordinarily Brave

You Are Extraordinarily Brave

"There’s a common misunderstanding among all the human beings who have ever been born on the earth that the best way to live is to try to avoid pain and just try to get comfortable.” Pema Chodron For most of my life, I’ve had a fear of flying. I’m talking white...

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Take the “Are You There for Me?” Quiz

Take the “Are You There for Me?” Quiz

I'm excited to introduce you to the "Are you there for me?" quiz. I've heard of many couples, myself included, who spend several years in this space of "relationship limbo." It can be a slow torture to neither be moving forward and yet, not fully "in" the relationship...

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Developing a 9-Step Roadmap for Therapy

Developing a 9-Step Roadmap for Therapy

Sometimes the couples I work with want to know, “where are we in the therapy process?” The following description breaks down the roadmap for therapy. The work is not strictly linear. For ease of explanation, however, the process follows three stages. Within these...

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6 Effective Ways to Regulate Emotions

6 Effective Ways to Regulate Emotions

Wondering how to regulate emotions in a roller coaster world? Feeling sad because of a recent news story? Angry at a coworker or friend? Frustrated, nervous, overwhelmed at the thought of COVID-19 and just trying to make it day-by-day? Maybe we're inexplicably joyful...

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